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Schemas are deeply ingrained emotional patterns that repeat throughout our lives sabotaging our attempts to reach our goals, dreams and live a fulfilling life. Identifying and reducing your schemas is the key to achieving lasting change.

  • 18 Schemas
    • 1 – 9
      • Emotional Deprivation
      • Abandonment
      • Mistrust & Abuse
      • Social Isolation
      • Defectiveness & Shame
      • Failure To Achieve
      • Dependency & Incompetence
      • Vulnerability to Harm
      • Enmeshment
    • 10 – 18
      • Subjugation
      • Self-Sacrifice
      • Emotional Inhibition
      • Unrelenting Standards
      • Entitlement & Grandiosity
      • Insufficient Limits & Self-Control
      • Approval Seeking
      • Negativity & Pessimism
      • Punitiveness
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Defectiveness & Shame

If you identify with five or more of these statements - there is a strong likelihood that you have this schema.

1.  I feel that there is something fundamentally wrong with me.

2.  No man/woman I desire could love me once he or she saw my defects.

3.  No one I desire would want to stay close to me if he or she knew the real me.

4.  I often find myself drawn to people who are very critical of me or reject me.

5.  It is my fault that my parent(s) could not love me enough..

6.  I feel that I'm not lovable.

7.  I'm unworthy of the love, attention, and respect of others.

8.  I am flawed and broken.

9.   I feel that I don't really matter to anyone.

10.  I am ashamed of who I am.


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