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Schemas are deeply ingrained emotional patterns that repeat throughout our lives sabotaging our attempts to reach our goals, dreams and live a fulfilling life. Identifying and reducing your schemas is the key to achieving lasting change.

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When the Past isn’t Past



"Just get over it"  "It's all in the past" " Just let go" " Just move on" 

"That was then - this is now"

We hear comments like this a lot. No matter what has happened to us in the past, we are often expected to be able to leave the past well and truly in the past and just 'get on with life'.

But what if it isn't really that simple?

Groundbreaking research into the long term effects of childhood adversity, shows that the way we are raised and the quality of our childhood environment  actually shapes the way our brain develops and functions.

Many of the issues we struggle with today - addictions, anxiety, depression, eating disorders and problems in relationships are often due to what we have experienced in the past. 

Find out more in my second video from the 3-part video series: 

Breaking the Patterns from the Past.

Video # 2 When the Past isn't Past

In this video, you'll learn about the main causes of anxiety and depression and why some people get addicted while others don't. You'll also learn about our two brains and how conflict between them contributes to self sabotage and procrastination. 

Before watching video # 2, make sure you have seen video # 1.

CLICK HERE TO DOWNLOAD VIDEO # 2 WORKSHEET


Video # 3 in the series will be posted on the blog section of schema therapy online in the coming few days.

How To Identify Emotions & Feelings


In my last post, I shared one of my series of videos on emotions  -'Dealing with overwhelming emotions'.  However, before we can really get anywhere with managing and processing emotions, we need to first be able to identify them.

And this isn't an easy task if we have spent most of our life avoiding, suppressing or numbing our emotions. Initially, it can be really difficult just staying with our feelings long enough to name them.

On top of this, the way our brains have developed can make it biologically quite difficult to identify our feelings.  This is often one of the main reasons a lot of self help books or therapies don't produce optimal results.

We first have to create the capacity for change in our brains. 

Check out the video below to find out more about this and also learn a 6 step process for identifying your emotions and feelings. 

 


Click here to get a copy of the emotions and feelings list mentioned in the video.


If you found this video interesting, or you struggle to manage your emotions, why not have a look through our schema pages or join our free face book group. Breaking the Patterns from the Past. 

Our new online programme designed to help you heal the patterns from the past launches on Monday 14th May so if this is something that you might be interested in click here for more details

I'd love to hear your thoughts on the information in the video, so please feel free to leave a comment below.

How To Deal With Overwhelming Emotions

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One of the most important skills we can master in life is the ability to manage our emotions and feelings.

The inability to manage and process emotions effectively is at the heart of the majority of mental health issues we face today.  

Anxiety and depression happen when we get 'stuck' in high or low emotional states.

Addictions take hold when we rely exclusively on external sources to change the way we feel. ​

Over-eating becomes a problem when we use food to 'stuff our feelings down' because other options don't seem to be available to us. 

If we want happy, successful relationships and true emotional intimacy, we need to be able to express our feelings - no matter how scary - and also be able to sit with the uncomfortable feelings of others.

If we want to achieve the goals we set for ourselves, we need to be able to push through a range of uncomfortable emotions - fear, anxiety, self doubt, guilt, frustration and perhaps shame - to get where we want to be in life. 

But learning to deal with emotions and feelings effectively is not something we can learn overnight. Quite often, our brains have developed in ways that make it biologically very difficult to manage emotional states.

If you want to learn a little more about this, check out my video below  on "Dealing with overwhelming emotions" 


If you found this video interesting, or you struggle to manage your emotions, why not have a look through our schema pages or join our free face book group. Breaking the Patterns from the Past. 

Our new online programme to heal the patterns from the past launches on Monday 14th May so if this is something that you might be interested in click here for more details

I'd love to hear your thoughts on the information in the video, so please feel free to leave a comment below.